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Subject:I am sick:(
Time:08:57 pm
I know I have been very slack in commenting on posts and replying to comments lately although I have been reading. Ever since my mom's funeral on 17 Jan I've had one bout of illness after another and am currently on the third day of a nasty stomach upset. I'm convinced most of it has been brought on by stress - not just the trauma of losing my mom and mother-in-law within a week of each other but, being the only child, it fell on me to arrange the funeral, then because it was Christmas we had to wait almost a month for it to take place. I thought that once it was over I could start concentrating on sorting out my mom's affairs and going through her things, dealing with matters relating to her house etc but the day after the funeral I woke up with pains all over my body and it's been one thing after another since then.

This also explans the delay in posting the next chapter of Journey, of course. I have made a start on it but it will be some time before I'm able to complete it. The way I'm feeling right now I'm finding it very hard to concentrate on anything - and I don't think I'll ever want to eat again!!
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verangel
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Time:2012-02-04 08:59 pm (UTC)
Oh please don't worry and take care of yourself. You have had a horrible time. I am an only child too and I dread this happening. Hugs you very close and have chicken soup. xoxooxxo love v
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-05 08:53 pm (UTC)
Many thanks. I'm feeling a little better today:)
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addie71
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Time:2012-02-04 09:17 pm (UTC)
What a miserable time for you. I hope you are feeling better soon. *hugs*
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-05 08:54 pm (UTC)
Many thanks. I'm feeling a little better today:)
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ambree40
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Time:2012-02-04 09:18 pm (UTC)
You have my sincere sympathy. Loosing a parent is very stressful and you need lots of time to recover from it. I hope that things will improve for you with the coming of spring. That shouldn't be very long now. Take care!
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-05 08:54 pm (UTC)
Many thanks. I'm feeling a little better today:)
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shirebound
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Time:2012-02-05 12:03 am (UTC)
What an awful time for you. I'm glad you let us know how you're doing so we can shower you with loves and hugs.

It's so easy for our bodies to fall prey to stress, as I know. *sigh*

*get-well snuggles*
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-05 08:55 pm (UTC)
Many thanks. I'm feeling a little better today:)
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primula_baggins
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Time:2012-02-05 12:16 am (UTC)
Oh Paulie, I'm sorry you're feeling so poorly!

Losing your mom and mother-in-law like that was a very sad thing to have happen, and then for so much of it to fall on you to take care of--that'd be enough for anyone. Now you've had multiple sicknesses. I hope someone is taking care of you now because you need it. Any chance you can see a doctor to get something for your current illness?

Gosh, just get feeling well. We will be here for you whenever.

*gentle hugs*
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-05 08:58 pm (UTC)
Many thanks Prim. I'm feeling a little better today so hopefully I won't need to go to the docs. My hubby is a tower of strength, don't know what I'd do without him:)
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mechtild
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Time:2012-02-05 01:38 am (UTC)
I am so sorry, Paulie. What you've been through -- and are going through!!!
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-05 09:12 pm (UTC)
Many thanks, Mechtild. I'm feeling a little better today:)
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yeuxdebleu
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Time:2012-02-05 01:40 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry you're not feeling well. I'm sure stress is largely responsible, as you said. Just de-stress for a while. Relax, do things you enjoy. Everything else can wait. Feeling better should be your priority now. Once you accomplish that, it will be much easier to cope with everything else.

*big hug*
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-05 09:24 pm (UTC)
Thanks Yeux. I'm lucky to have such a good husband - the last few days I've been incapable of doing anything, yesterday I didn't even get dressed, and he's taken over everything. I'm feeling a little better today and trying not to think about all the things that need to be done, as you say, they can wait:)






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_celebrian
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Time:2012-02-05 03:42 am (UTC)
Oh, sweetie, I am so sorry. Take it as easy as you can and I hope you feel much better soon.

*gentle hugs*
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-05 09:24 pm (UTC)
Many thanks. I'm feeling a little better today:)
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msilverstar
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Time:2012-02-05 06:41 am (UTC)
many many *hugs* to you, and I'm sorry for your losses, and your nightmarish couple of months. Please take good care of yourself.
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-05 09:25 pm (UTC)
Many thanks. I'm feeling a little better today:)
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mole_caz
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Time:2012-02-05 02:32 pm (UTC)
You are not alone in feeling like this. I remember after my dad died that my mum, who had cared from him day and night for over three months in extremely trying circumstances, started to succumb to all manners of ills. She couldn't sleep, went off her food, her body ached all over and she felt generally unwell. She was told that it was her body's reaction to all the pent up emotions and stress and would take a while to heal. She recovered just fine but it took time so I'm sure your body will readjust and you will be well again too. (((((hugs and xxxx coming your way))))))
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-05 09:33 pm (UTC)
Many thanks Mole. I'm convinced that it is a result of all the stress, not just the last couple of months but over the last two or three years - mainly worries about my mom and dad, first one was in hospital, then the other and then of course my dad died in Nov 2010 and we didn't know what to do about my mom. It's all bound to have a physical impact in the end.
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janejanejane
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Time:2012-02-05 05:36 pm (UTC)
Sorry to hear you're so sick at present and I'm sure it's related to your stress following your Mom's funeral. It's a lot to cope with as well as losing your mother-in-law so close together.

Please don't worry about posting the next chapter of Journey, we can wait until you are able to post.

Please take care and give yourself time to recover *hugs*
xx
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-05 09:34 pm (UTC)
Many thanks, Jane. I'm feeling a little better today:)
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mews1945
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Time:2012-02-05 05:55 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry you're sick, sweetheart. You're probably right about it being at least partially stress-related. I know stress like that can compromise your immune system and make you a lot more susceptible to illness. And I believe emotional pain and stress is reflected in your body too. I hope you'll recover soon. Take care of yourself and be as kind to you as you would to a friend.
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-05 09:39 pm (UTC)
>>I believe emotional pain and stress is reflected in your body too.<<

Yes, I'm convinced that is true. Thankfully the stomach is feeling a little better today. Many thanks Mews:)
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-05 09:40 pm (UTC)
Many thanks. I'm feeling a little better today:)
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aliensouldream
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Time:2012-02-05 10:05 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom and Mom-in-law, I seem to have missed the original post and apologise. I'm sending my love and sympathies to you. What an awfully difficult time for you and your family, and then to be ill too. Please take the best care of yourself you can manage. You are being very brave in arranging everything and coping. Just concentrate on getting stronger and dealing gently with yourself. Much love and hugs xxx
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-06 10:11 pm (UTC)
Many thanks for your kind words:)
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bellewood
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Time:2012-02-06 01:55 am (UTC)
Oh goodness. I'm so sorry that you're not feeling well. It's good to read that you're a little better today and hopefully tomorrow will be the end of it. You've had so much to deal with this last couple of years that it's bound to take it's toll. Take comfort in your friends here.. and Elijah. One look at that glorious face is guaranteed to cure all ills ;)
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-06 10:14 pm (UTC)
Many thanks Belle. I am feeling a little better today. "That glorious face" has been better than any medicine during this time:)
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annwyn55
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Time:2012-02-06 10:02 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your losses, Paulie. What a darn double-whammy you've had.

I guess your body's reacting to the stress of it all. Hope resting will take care of it. *hugs*
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-06 10:16 pm (UTC)
Many thanks Annie. I am feeling a little better today:)
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Subject:I'm sick
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Time:2012-02-06 10:11 pm (UTC)
I am glad you are already feeling a little bit better, dear NotAlone.

I know by experience that your body takes its toll when your mind tries to ignore that you are on the verge of collapsing.

You as the only child and responsible child have done everything that has to be done, and now is the time you allow yourself the grief. I am so so happy that you've got a loving, strong husband who holds and comforts you.

I've lost my father, my boyfriend. It takes to get over it; there is no shortcut, I think. But eventually I realized that these people I loved would want me to be happy again.

Anne (hugs you)
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not_alone
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Time:2012-02-06 10:53 pm (UTC)
Many thanks Anne - I do agree that severe emotional stress has a massive effect on our physical health.

I realise you may not have seen my original post as I felt I should make it a private post. My mother-in-law died on 14 Dec - it was expected as she was very ill with cancer. My own mom's death exactly one week later was a complete shock - although at 95 she was a great age, she had no real health problems. I lost my dad in Nov. 2010. Although it's all terribly sad, they all reached a great age and for most of their lives enjoyed good health, and that's what I keep reminding myself of.

To lose one's parents is the normal course of events, something most of us have to experience but I was so very shocked to know that you lost your boyfriend. Losing a boyfriend/partner/husband or a child must be about the worse things anyone can go through and I just don't know how I'd cope with that. You have my utmost sympathy and I'm so glad you've obviously found a way of coping. You're completely right, of course - your boyfriend and father would most definitely want you to be happy.

Much love and hugs:)
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